On that post I received a lot of comments from other women who were feeling the same way, who - like me - put it down to pre-natal depression....I also received so much support from friends and the blogging community, I was truly overwhelmed.
There was one comment on that post which - I'll be honest - actually almost irritated me a little bit at the time (although it was well intended, you know how it is when you're feeling super sensitive...) I thought to myself "It's not something as simple as just the month of the year...it's depression, it's a breakdown, it's because I'm pregnant again so soon after my second child and I can't handle it...I'm not coping"
That was honestly how I felt.
This was the comment I received:"It is January! I've come to live in fear of it. It deny's you one of depression's greatest weapons, the joy and healing power of nature. Who wants to brave the cold and rain with small children and nothing looks pretty or soothing to the soul...Sometimes the simple answers are true. Lack of sleep, lack of light, lack of fun and your seeming invisibility. You are not mad or suffering a disorder of any kind. This is all very natural and one day you will be glad of all you've learned. But no one will look after you, but you. And plan for January next year. See it coming for what it is." Well...after I posted that article, I went on and my baby was born in February...things started to fall back into place and we carried on, and in the end the year was a good one with some fantastic moments...
And now...it's January again.
I've spoken before about how this Christmas wasn't a great one and I feel as though I kind of went into myself after it and I haven't shaken it all off yet...I'm still seeing a therapist weekly for anxiety disorder and PTSD, and lately my sessions have been quite intense which has brought all sorts of feelings and past experiences to the surface and left me feeling quite rubbish in general.
And honestly...the past few weeks have been awful.
And I feel terrible for admitting to that - because nobody has died, nobody is sick, nothing is permanently broken - but I feel as though I've been hit by a truck.
Not physically - although with 3 hospital appointments this week for various health complaints and decisions to be made about operations, I could be in better shape - but mentally.
I feel exhausted. I feel lonely. I feel desperate.
Things are very very difficult financially and I feel as though I am constantly struggling up an impossible hill, working and trying and never really getting any further...I work hard, I seem to work all the hours god sends sometimes to the detriment of time with the kids which makes me feel guilty...most days I'm still working until the small hours of the morning.
I earn decent money but somehow the money coming in and the money going out never seems to tally up, and despite how much I work it feels as though I never reap the benefits of it...we're always struggling.
This week, for the past 5 days I have literally not had a penny to my name. Not a single penny....what sort of grown up mother of 3 is irresponsible enough to allow things to get to that point? My savings account is empty, my bank account is 100% into its overdraft....I literally do not have a penny.
Oh I'm owed nearly £2,000 for work I've completed of course, as is always the case with freelancing...people want their work done on time and are right there with their demanding emails asking if their post is written yet but paying the bills is never too high on the old priority list...
So yes...financially things are really hard right now.
Emotionally I feel battered and bruised...upset by memories brought up in my therapy session, let down by people close to me, lonely and friendless and without any support...
Even though I know there are friends there, they don't feel reachable.
I'm feeling that same way again, wanting to reach out to people for help and support but stopping myself every time I try...not knowing who to ask or what to say.
And today I hit an all time low, when I googled a few things and ended up on a site called "Suicide Forum"...of course I don't want to do that, there have been suicides in my family committed by parents of young children and I won't do the same thing to my kids...but just the thought of it getting in your head is distressing enough, nobody wants that...nobody wants to be that person.
But just now, sitting here at the computer chasing those invoices for what feels like the millionth time and hoping against hope that they'll be paid before rent day on Friday......I suddenly remembered that ladies comment last year.
And I looked at the calendar... And it made me wonder... Maybe she was right all along? Maybe it IS January?! I know that today is supposed to be "Blue Monday" and I know the concept of that seems laughable when you're in a good place in life...or maybe even when you're not...but can it really be coincidence that I feel so very low again, at the same time of the year? If you have any experience with seasonal disorders, I would love to hear about how it effects you as I'd love to figure out if this is the problem I'm having... I think I need to take the commenters advice and start to anticipate these kinds of feelings in January in future years and prepare for them - perhaps next January I'll book a Disneyland Visit (My happy place!), save hard to have some fall back cash to hand or think of other ways to make it all feel a little less hard.
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