Says who? Well Mick Jagger. But I tend to disagree with him. Ah, but the old asking something from someone. I hate doing this. I'd rather skate by and feel bitter that someone didn't read my mind and offer it to me first. I don't understand why, especially when my requests have never been anything outside of natural human desires or reasoning. Whether it be a raise or promotion at work, the occasional borrowing money from family or asking a friend to put in a good word for a position open at their company. I find it very hard to ask for a favor. While having a sense of entitlement is hardly a redeeming quality, being overly humble and modest leaves endless what-ifs and opportunities are ceased by someone else.
Is it that don't feel that I'm deserving enough for it? Perhaps. Or am I lazy? There has certainly been an essence of that. Or am I afraid to be told 'no'? A definite possibility. But that's what starting over and this blog is all about, living outside of comfort in an attempt to pave a new life that was made by me.
This week I must ask for something that can be easily done albeit a big favor that will potentially keep me in Paris longer. What's the hurt in asking? No one was ever died by hearing the answer no. Today is about putting myself 'out there' and grabbing that brass ring. Phase two of 'moving on' is creeping up and moves need to be made.
Can I do it? Can I ask for something that I need? We'll find out this week. I'm a bit scared...
So I made a mental check-list of what I need to keep in mind while asking.
1. Do Your Homework. Have all facts and details smoothed out, so questions can be answered in confidence.
2. Be prepared to offer you're end of the deal and how you will make this as easy on them as possible.
3. Smile and make eye contact.
4. Don't immediately expect them to say no and sprinkle your request with negatives.
5. Have a drink before. No, not really. I wish though.
If you're not asking for someone to offer up their children, fork over an obscene amount of money to go 'find yourself' or asking for something you aren't qualified to do, chances are that not too much is being asked and is always worth a shot. I hope I can follow my own advice...
