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Finding Joy On Father's Day After Losing Dad

Posted on the 22 June 2015 by Chasingjoy @chasing_joy
Finding Joy On Father's Day After Losing Dad Yesterday was Father's Day.  It was a good day for me.  Not because I did anything special (I went to church and started painting the room  that will be my bedroom in a couple weeks, remember I'm making room for baby). Yesterday  was the first Father's Day since my dad died where I did not feel depressed.
My dad died almost 6 years ago.  It has been one of the hardest  things I have ever experienced.  I'm sure anyone who has lost a parent can relate.  Each Father's Day since had been excruciatingly painful. I'd see the date on the calendar  and dread it.  I'd fast forward  through the Father's Day commercials and feel my anxiety  rise knowing the day was coming and how sad I'd feel.  When Father's Day would get here, I would post on Facebook  about how wonderful  my dad was then I'd  avoid  social media the rest of the day. The photos of my friends with their living fathers made me feel envious, sad, and a little angry.  I would  not even wish my brother or my friends happy Father's  Day.  If I could not tell my dad Happy Father's day  I damn sure wasn't saying it to anyone else.  This is what my grief was like even just last year.
This year was different.  I still miss my dad terribly and I did miss him a little more on Father's Day.  However, the dread, envy, anger, anxiety, and intense sadness were gone this year.  I was actually  able to enjoy seeing pictures of my friends with their dads on Facebook.  I even  wished My brother and a few friends Happy Father's Day.
Dad doing what he did best making us laugh. Bill Hartie = Best Dad Ever #AskAboutHim #RememberingDad #FathersDay A photo posted by Arlett (@chasingjoy) on Jun 21, 2015 at 6:32am PDT

Grief is no joke!  It is different  for everyone  and every circumstance.   I am happy that over the last almost 6 years the haze of grief for my dad has slowly cleared.  This  year it cleared enough for me to see Joy on Father's Day.
If you are struggling with grief I hope this post gives you hope that it does get better in time.  Although you will always miss your loved one and your life will be forever altered by their absence you will eventually experience joy again.
How was your Father's Day? Did you post a picture of your dad online? If so share your link in the comments so I can see it.

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