I grew up in the era of pop princesses and groups - Britney Spears, The Spice Girls, Mariah Carey; I sang lyrics like "hit me baby one more time" and "I need that uh, to get me off. Sweating till my clothes come off" we'll I did until my Maa told me not to because they were naughty and that was that but we came from the times when Barbie was still a vet, teacher, doctor and police officer - she had a little sister shelly and a long term boyfriend Ken who married her (obviously). But still we were far more stupid and primitive then - trees were still climbed and worms were still dug for. Even though these influences were around we knew they were wrong and not to be copied. We knew that Britney was slutty and that was fine for her but what would our mothers say?
I have a 12-year-old sister who is genuinely beautiful I'm not just saying it because shes is my sister but she is. She is so pretty that it makes me jealous and want to punch her. But getting back to the point she goes to school - because she is so pretty - and gets sexually harassed by boys - they ask her out, they try to look up her skirt (she has to wear a skirt - uniform), they try to feel her up and bully her because she isn't slutty. I've had her in tears on the phone to me because of this, now here is the catch she has had the same society, era and media that the other girls in her year have had - she has a phone, she has a tv with all the sky channels and she had access to the Internet yet the girls in her year are far more advanced in that field than her. She - bless her - is much more physically developed than I was at her age and is much more than most of the girls in her year yet they are the ones in those itsy bitsy wedgie shorts and prepubescent under boob crop tops and she is the one covered up and modest. It makes no sense. She gets bullied because she isn't behind the sheds at school with some boy groping her. When I was in year six there were like two girls who were trashy, they wore thongs and snogged the bad boys of the class behind the bins and everyone knew they were trashy. Now being normal is weird. I am so proud of her because in her generation and in their day and age - the way she is, is a credit to her and good parenting. Stop shifting blame to other sources. You're child should look up to you and if she isn't maybe you aren't doing enough for her to. If you taught your child right from wrong she will know that being a slut is slutty. If you're letting your child go for coffee dates unsupervised and letting her phone who ever the fuck she pleases and letting her use what ever site she wants you are asking for trouble - not just for her, but for you. The day I turned thirteen my Maa sat me down and said the best sentence she could have to me. She looks at me and said "the whole teenage thing? That shit isn't going to fly with me. Don't bother even trying it". Granted I had a few hiccups but fuck it everyone does. The whole Miley Cyrus shit - dudes its been going on forever and we aren't fucked up. Every Disney starlet has turned into a sex symbol at some point or other. I don't understand why it's their fault that our kids are becoming something we aren't proud of. It's not. Has anyone else seen the Rewind Reframe project? It's literally all over the news. It's an initiative aimed to - actually I have no idea. I'm not gunna lie I really don't. It's just like they come on and whine about how the music industry is sexist. I am perfectly aware that I sound really ignorant but the reason it bother me is because they seem to be failing to recognize artists like Lourdes and Gabrielle Aplin and ladies of music who actually make wonderful music with a point and simply focusing on the likes of Rihanna and such. It's like okay slag them off but at least promote the others. I'm sure the website is more informative but its just like when they come on it feels like they are just over protective, weird mother. Idk you know the ones that don't use anything with the number seven on and don't use chemicals when they are breast feeding (which is nice and all) but like do it in public and not like in a really beautiful natural way but like in a really look my tits are out but it's okay because it's for my baby, aren't I a good mother, aren't I? The ones that blame everyone else for the fact that their kids are weirdos. If your child is doing something you don't like, put a fucking stop to it like a parent should. Do n't tip toe and pretend its someone else's fault. Ugh sorry! I'm just ranting. Omg has everyone been watching Im a celebrity?! Omg how jealous of Amy Wilberton are Rebecca Adlington and the Emmerdale lady? Like Rebecca seems to think that the whole show revokes around her own damned insecurities. It's like seriously? Amy is a wonderfully refreshing beautiful girl who hadn't said a bad word against anyone and she gets stuck in with the task, admittedly she is a bit of a sun starfish but if you ask a person to do something (a reasonable person) they will do it, if not at the very moment, they will do it later. It's like gosh! She is probably on of those people that is very pampered at home and doesn't really do much domestically but she's a polite lovely girl so I'm sure she would be more than happy than to help out. I'm getting so tired of Rebecca "Spoon Face" Adlington constantly crying. I think someone should come up with a drinking game - every time she cries, you drink - you would be smashed by the end of it. And OMG a few days ago when they were all laying into Amy because of what she does. It was like dude! She is a beauty pageant girl so what? Chill the fuck out its not like she says if you're not a size 0 (which I'm no longer - Im a size 2 now) than you are ugly. I think it is fine to appreciate beauty, they have awards for courage and even pisstake awards but its suddenly not right to for beauty because it makes others feel insecure. Hold up how is it the other persons fault. I admit that the girls in magazines and media is totally unrealistic but the thing is we know that it is all airbrushed and corrected. You don't sue Disney for an unrealistic idealology of men or porn for an unrealistic view of sex and women. It's like everyone has to have something to make them stand out. Oh I'm a Gemini that's why I'm so two faced. I have daddy issues that's why I'm so slutty. Omg I like cleaning my makeup off before I put on another layer - it's OCD. I get so sad sometimes I must be depressed. Sometimes I get so angry I have angermanagment issues. I talk to myself I think I'm a skitzophrenic. How about stfu.Ugh.
Anyways!
Love,
Monica
xxx
