I can’t remember what I was watching, but there has been one line that has resonated with me in life when it comes to being a decent human being. It was simple, “Don’t be a dickhead”.
I think in life it is so easy for us to take sides. I myself sometimes catch myself blaming ALL males for one males mistake. You hear of people saying “only white people can be racist” or “only females can be victims of domestic abuse/rape”. This boils my blood, because no one is immune to the harsh actions, words or violations that another person causes – regardless of age, race, sexual orientation, religion or gender.
Hence why I like to reflect on that simple quote from that forgettable show,
“Don’t be a dickhead”
You can decide what makes a dickhead, but it’s usually pretty obvious who is a dickhead and what a dickhead would do to other people.
However, it seems that there are some people in the world that haven’t got this memo and are quite happy in their self centred ways and ruining other people’s happiness and joy.
When it comes to relationships, my biggest… BIGGEST pet peeve is people who aren’t clear on what they want and those who lie.
So why is it that there seems to be an ABUNDANCE of these people in the world right now? I thought I was alone in my latest plight of being heartbroken, but I’m now watching another dear friend go through the exact same pain.
When it comes to relationships and dating… it is SIMPLE…
DON’T DATE SOMEONE… DON’T SEND THEM FLOWERS… DON’T BUY THEM GIFTS… DON’T MEET THEIR FRIENDS AND FAMILY… DON’T INCLUDE THEM IN YOUR SPECIAL EVENTS… DON’T TELL THEM THAT THERE IS SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT THEM THAT YOU HAVE NEVER FELT BEFORE…
if in fact, you’re only intention is having your sexual desires and need for attention satisfied for a measly few weeks or months… make it clear from the start what you want and what your intentions are… don’t sit around and drag things on and think you’ll hurt them if you are straight up..
if they’re an adult – they can fucking handle the truth..
they can handle honesty and they can move on much easier if you tell them straight up that you are just after a root…
what is hard to handle, is feeling like you have EVERYTHING you have always wanted
having your friends and family tell you how amazing that person is, having their friends and family tell you ‘you’re the perfect match for each other’, having invited them to be part of friends birthdays, engagement parties, weddings etc… all for it to be shit on in a couple of weeks or months time when you finally decide that it is getting too serious for you to handle.. .
if you want to be single… BE FUCKING SINGLE…
don’t sit their and complain that ‘nice guys finish last’ because buddy… if you fucked someone over like I have described above, you are VERY FAR from being a fucking nice guy..
Be single – stay single until you are mature enough to handle a relationship and old enough to get over going out clubbing every weekend to find a root…
if you still want to do this, don’t even THINK of getting in a relationship..
be big enough to tell the truth from the start – and if that person doesn’t want just casual sex and doesn’t want to get involved with someone who isn’t sure what they want, don’t BEG them to stay… let them leave… let them go and be free and enjoy their life instead of sucking them down into your selfish spiral … just to fuck them over when you’ve got your little ego boost…
Because once that person is done being heart broken, they will wake and realize that you are not in fact the person they thought you were… that everyone else thinks you are… because nice people don’t treat other people like this all for their own selfish reasons..
dickheads, on the other hand do…
so… you don’t want to finish last anymore?
here’s a tip…
don’t be a dickhead…
