I had a friend who once described parenthood as the screwing you get, for the screwing you got...well, his description was a little more vulgar, but I'm sure you all know what I mean. I'm not saying I didn't want to be a parent, nor do I mind being a parent now, but I would have thought after 38 years, the parenting would have become less stressful and much more easily managed.
Somewhere down his journey of lifes path, my youngest son, who is 38, took a wrong turn, and seems to think his mother and myself should be doing the straightening out for him. I have other ideas, unfortunetly for me, my wife sympatizes with him, and what I believe, is far too much coddling.
I don't want to be mean, but I think there comes a time when one must take responsibilty for ones own actions, and stop making excuses for being a screw-up. If one would take a serious look at their choices, and try to figure out where things began going wrong, instead of trying to make excuses for them, then just maybe they could get back on the straight and narrow.
Please don't think I haven't made mistakes, and often wrong choices, I have, but I also manned up to them, and changed the direction I was going. That is the difference, the owning up to the mistake, and the willingness to change.
Paying for your mistakes by loosing your freedom is unfathonable to me, and I can't see why anyone would let that happen. Sometimes when these things happen, on rare occassions, that these things were out of our control, but that doesn't happen very often.
So now that my son has "time" on his hands, I would hope he uses it as a way to look back and see what it is he has done wrong, and what he needs to do to fix it, not only for himself, but for his own children, and his family... it's never easy, but it doesn't have to be complicated. BB84CBJNBGNM
