Came across someone who gives an explanation or justification on how frank and honest they are? Nooooooo?? Kidding me! Aren’t you? Am sure all of us would have seen such a specimen atleast once. I get it! Still unclear as to what am I referring to?
Well! Just met a friend (infact not such a friendly-friend, but a sort-of-friend) She was upset on some person and had come to me to get all the B-H-A-D-A-A-S out. This is how the conversation went-
She: “I do not like hiding anything Haritha!Me: “Yeah! Uh…” (Was trying to check as to what’s it about?)She continued: “People do not really like me, you know.”I tried talking, but she wasn’t listening and I whispered “Tell me something I don’t know!” She continued her saga: “If I feel someone’s wrong I go ahead and say it. I don’t see anything wrong. They should know to accept it, right?”I said-“Well! Hmm…” She yet again interrupted me (I frowned). Now, I convinced myself saying “Haritha that was probably a rhetorical question, Chill!”She then flaunted her talking skills again- “I am very straight forward and honest. I can’t keep things in my mind and brood about it always. He, who can’t take the truth will always be looser, don’t you think so?”Now, I am assured that I shouldn’t be answering because who the hell is even listening to me trying my best to give an enthusiastic listener’s look.Then she yells: “Haritha! Where the hell are you lost gal? You aren’t even listening to me”.I just gave her a blank look- WTF!!!! is wrong with her?? Insane??Finally, I managed to say- “It’s not that, I don’t even know whom you are talking about”She- “Oh! I forgot to mention it? Sorry gal, it just upsets me that people misunderstand me. (Who is this? I still don’t know) Anyways I don’t really bother. Be straight forward like me and learn to be honest. I always say if you have an issue, tell it directly, and don’t keep it within yourself”. (Finally a revelation on the actual matter which is trust me “GROSS”)I then replied- “If you are anyways asking me to tell it, let me begin. First of all, I don’t think it was your business to actually comment on his personal matter. You are just a Co-worker and behave like one. Do not raise your Eyebrows because you yourself asked for this and said you like honest people. Well, not that I want to top the list of the people you like, but I would love to be considered as an honest soul. Oh Shucks! I deviated from the topic? Hmm.. Speaking of what I think about you, I think you are an intruder and a rude person. You speak on things you shouldn’t, you pass on suggestion when not asked, the tone of yours is never soothing, claim to be open to criticism when you aren’t. Proof? This whole story you just told is simply because your ego is hurt when he asked you to shut up directly. Accept that you cannot deal with a person who is just like you. Hence, if someone says they do not like you I guess you should simply follow the reason.” Phew! Ha-ha. Nope, I never said anything as out rightly rude and horribly offensive thing like that. How do you think she would have reacted to it? Would it be- “Thanks for the analysis Haritha.” OR “Shut the fuck up.” I am sure it would be the latter. I too believe in telling things the way it is, but in a subtle way and get the message conveyed. Why run around like a Cannibal shouting HOO-HAA, HOO-HAA, when you can get things done in a humble manner? The thought of me having to tell this itself makes me crazy. Well! The issue was that she advised her co-worker on his personal life and he directly asked her to shut the fuck up and mind her business. J That sounds like a head to head collision of egos, Isn’t it? Now, if that wasn’t being honest and straight forward, what else could be? According to me, he was brutally honest and as straight forward as she proclaims herself to be. Their whole idea of the word honest and straight forward is wrong. How I wish a dictionary could help. I still chose not to speak and tell her that he is just the same person as you are. This was simply because I cannot tell something sooooo out rightly offending on her face and offend her inspite of being asked for.The whole idea to write this was, I have come across many who claim that they are good people. The usual dialog would be- “I don’t keep anything in my heart, you know”. Well, that’s great but one should know where and when to give an opinion or a suggestion. First understand, that the tone in which you talk is directly proportional to their reactionJ. If you give a tone as if you own the other person, he will obviously respond in a manner “FUCK OFF”. In this same category, there are the ones who believe that people who do not indulge in this action are cowards. I need to tell them, that they could also be the ones who think of the repercussions the tone in which they talk can lead to. Not because I am a great soul, but because my brain simply stops functioning if I see the other individual in an uncomfortable situation or is offended by me. So I automatically, try not to put him into such a situation so that am at ease.I am sure that the ones who claim to be open to criticism and say I will not feel bad, have never got the high volatile doze of their own medicine. There is no request here asking them to change themselves, but just try and analyze yourself and the results of your behavior. If you still choose not to, Congratulations B-W-A-Y!! [ZNMD after effect ;)] then be open to people whom you claim to dislike. The fact still remains that they are just another you!!! Gracias por leer!! (Thank you for reading),
