I thought about not posting this.
I published then unpublished it.
I debated, I prayed.
I thought long and hard about it.
Today I am posting about all things real. Life is full of the bad and the ugly, so why not blog about it?
I read an article via Facebook about abortion and was instantly moved to write this post. I typically don't get too deep or controversial about topics on this here blog. One reason is I am terrified of the backlash and secondly, I do not want to offend anyone for their choices and experiences. The truth is, I am pro-life. I am not pro-life so I can bash others for thinking differently. I am not pro-life because I am anti-women's rights. I am not taking a stance on politics, but on life. The truth is my heart breaks for those who have chosen abortion and my heart breaks for the unborn child. I believe that life begins at conception. I believe that a human is living inside of the womb and therefore, should be cared for. Being cared for means, taking prenatal vitamins, abstaining from alcohol, tobacco and controlled substances. That means taking the time to eat and nourish the human fetus that is rapidly growing inside. I am pro-life because I think that it is a woman's choice to be sexually active, but I do not think it is her choice whether or not the unborn child lives or dies. I believe deep down that God loves each and every life, despite how or why they come into the world. I could use what-if scenarios all day long as to why it could be acceptable, but like I said, I would be here all day.
I know and understand that we do not live in a perfect world. I know that rape happens, women are attacked and brutally assaulted, and I know that if that situation were to happen to me, I would question...Why? Because I am human too. I talk about my belief and faith in Christ, and I don't think that Christ would look at any woman and say, "Away from me sinner". I think rather that he would embrace every single woman who has experienced this and whisper to them, "I love you and no matter how much shame, pain, or regret you feel, it is never too much for me". You see, I believe also in forgiveness. I believe in not judging, hating, or pushing people into what I believe, but rather loving them for who they are and where they've been.
I talked with a few ladies who are struggling with infertility. The same thought always comes to mind when talking with them. I keep thinking how is this fair? They want more than anything to be mothers, and yet, unborn babies are aborted everyday...They are not cared for, loved, or nurtured. They are discarded. Discarded? I cannot even imagine. I cannot imagine being on that table about to make that life altering decision to discard a living human being. I cry just thinking about it. I weep because the world doesn't think of the unbearable pain that so many women experience {some by their choice, some by their mother's/father's choice/some by medical intervention}. The truth is, the last thing our world needs is hate. The last thing our world needs is people standing outside of abortion clinics scathing and belittling them for their choice and experience. What if more women experienced the unconditional love of Christ? Would their decision be the same? Would they look at that little life the same way? I pray not.
I know and have read the statistics. I certainly didn't want to talk about numbers. I wanted to talk about life. Real life. A life that is messy and changes from person to person. We are like a web. We all walk different paths, yet we all intertwine. Growing up and even now I have wanted to minister to young girls. If you are a young, teenage girl, I encourage you to wait to have sex. The first reason is sex is an extremely big responsibility. It is not all fun and games like the media portrays it to be. Sex is not intended just for pleasure, but for love as well. The media glorifies sex, worships it even. When sex is taken out of a loving, committed context {i.e. marriage}, it can be heartbreaking. Be a kid for as long as you can! Preserve your heart and your body. I promise you, not everyone is doing it. You can wait, and you are worth it! Having multiple partners does not guarantee a magical sex life, and more experience does not ensure the perfect relationship. As a married woman, who is sexually active, I can tell you that sex is but a piece of the relationship. There are several other aspects that require work. When you're married you constantly have to work at every aspect of the relationship, even sex. He may want it less. You may want it more. He may not want to when you do {they don't tell you this stuff, huh?} It isn't perfect ever! As someone who did not wait, I encourage every young woman to wait. If I could go back, I would have made a different choice.
I know this a long post, so I am going to wrap it up. I appreciate everyone for reading and considering my thoughts. If you would like to comment, please do, but understand that I do not partake in hateful debate and I will delete such comments {even anonymous ones}. If you have any questions or thoughts, or would like to chat more, please email me.
