Being a twin is rather fascinating in current times – you hear the famous “Oh, I wish I had a twin!” line all the time. That is the unending jovial claims emerging from people who deem that being one is definitely worth it. However, there’s also the socially corrupt stigma that drudges along with it. But, here’s the catch – they come from the same people who relish the idea but also tear apart the entire reality of it. That, everyone, is the brutal, judgemental comparison of two individuals which results in unnecessary bitter tension and following that, a torrent of wavering emotions. In addition to that, while it is a conscious reflex of our minds to process judgements in a split second, it is also in our command to voice them out.
Apparently, it is quite human to have words conquer actions when the fact is perfectly settled the other way round. The gift of being able to judge verbally is taken for granted quite frequently – needless to say, this in actuality is a particular aspect that needs to be shelved aside especially when the expense correlates to disrupting a perfectly bound relationship between twins.
Comparisons aside, having someone throughout thick and thin is probably the most beautiful facet of such a bond. It is the sense of togetherness established from birth till the end of time that is cherished out of anything else. Though it might not be completely realized early on, it is eventually confronted courtesy of experiences that not only bolster, but also infuse a sense of significance into an ever deepening relationship which is preserved beautifully with time.
Firstly, with twins, there is a conventional perception that pretty much everything between the two needs to be in harmony. For instance, this could pertain to outfits that were co-ordinated at a tender age or perhaps even dietary preferences. This may well be accurate to a certain degree – nonetheless, with time, change is a constant. It becomes a delight to observe how these twins advance from a “continually complementing one another” phase to one that has them mature and identified as two exceptionally distinct, yet unique personalities. It is that individualistic attribute of both these characters that blossoms from a congruent dimension to a place where each of them stand out conspicuously not for their similarities, but for their positive contrasting dispositions in essence. In short, they are individuals who are similarly different (or in Singapore style – same, same but different).
Secondly, happiness is at its greatest when it is shared – and who better to savour it with than your one and only related significant other? With ups, downs are surely inevitable – sorrows are also handled jointly as it is supposed to be. One blatant plus point though, is that deepest, darkest secrets can be conveyed to one twin confidently and vice versa. They can be counted upon for comforting advice during the murkiest of times – as it is, in this world, it is indisputably beneficial to have a helping hand that is empathetic to perhaps suppress a scandal of extensive magnitude.
Lastly, complementing the other twin is a natural phenomenon. While one may have a knack for a certain talent, the other might fall short when it comes to it. Life though, unquestionably does not terminate at this point. Twins have the adeptness to impart the expertise that they contain and assist in enlightening the other when they prove inadequate at times. This disparity between two individuals – one with the strength and the other with the flaw – is what renders ruthless comparisons from the society. What culminates from that is pressure that is detrimental to a relationship as it might lead to unintentional yet unhealthy competition between two personalities.
All things considered, the flaw has the opportunity to progress into a strong suit when both individuals combine their efforts to set aside the pessimism. It is like a puzzle piece that meets another seamlessly to form an illustration. When every patch is filled with another piece – just as how one supports in mending a flaw – the outcome is irrefutably worthwhile.
So, from one twin to the rest out there, yes – there is a vicious aura brought about by society that may deem that it is more than acceptable to evaluate individuals based on their positives and negatives. It automatically becomes our responsibility though, to dispose such thoughts away because the truth is, the upside of it supercedes the downside without a doubt. As a final point, your twin is your indispensable half and that sense of togetherness that emerges mutually when standing hand in hand is perpetual.
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