During an elegant welcoming reception for the new Director of Marketing of famous London company, some of the wives of the other directors, who wanted to get acquainted with the new spouse, asked her with some hesitation:
"Does your spouse make you happy, truly happy?'
The husband, who at the moment was not at her side, but was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation. He was sitting up slightly, feeling secure, even filling his chest lightly in pride, knowing that his spouse would answer affirmatively. She had always been there for him during their marriage.
Nevertheless, to both his and the others' surprise, she simply replied " No, no he doesn't make me happy." The room became uncomfortably silent, as if everyone were listening the spouse's response. The husband was petrified. He couldn't believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion for him. To the amazement of her husband and everyone, she simply placed enigmatically on her head and elegant black silk scarf and continued ;
"No, he doesn't make me happy. I AM HAPPY. The fact that I am happy or not, doesn't depend on him, but on me. I am the only person upon which my happiness depends. I make the choice to be happy in each situation and each moment of my life. If my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or other circumstances on the face of the earth, I would be in serious trouble! Everything that exist in this life changes continually:
Humans, wealth , my body, the climate, pleasures, etc. I could enumerate an infinite list...."
"Over my life I have learned a couple of things:
I decide to be happy and rest is a matter of experiences or circumstances ; like helping and listening, consoling; and with my spouse, I have lived and practiced this many times.
Happiness will always be found in forgiveness and in loving yourself and others- Its not the responsibility of my spouse to make me happy. He also has his " experiences or circumstances." I love him and he loves me, In spite of his circumstances and of mine. He changes. I change. The environment changes, everything changes; Having forgiveness and true love, and observing these changes, that can be , big or little, but always happen, we must face them with the love that exist in each of us. If the two of us love and forgive each other, the changes will only be " experience or circumstances" that enrich us and give us strength. Otherwise we would be only be " Living together". For some, divorce is only solution; (......in reality it is the easiest......)
To truly love, is difficult. It is to forgive unconditionally, to live, to take the "experience or circumstances" as they are, facing them together and being happy with conviction. There are those who say:" I cannot be happy because I am sick, because I have no money, because someone stopped loving me, because someone didn't appreciate me , because they insulted me !".
But what you don't know is that you can be happy even though you are sick, whether it is too hot, whether you have money or not, whether someone has insulted you, or someone didn't love you, or hasn't valued you.
Being HAPPY is an attitude about life and each one of us must decide!!!!!!
Being Happy , depends upon us.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!