I have menteioned in a few other posts that I am single and looking. While being in a relationship is not a prerequisite for Chasing Joy, I do think it is a journey that would be much more fun shared. So I have been making an effort to find my Mr. Joy Chaser. I've mentioned to friends that I am looking to meet new people, have been going out more often, and have joined a couple of dating sites.
I have never made a love connection via online dating. But, I have met some really nice guys that I still keep in touch with. So, overall I have had pretty decent experiences with online dating. That is until this weekend.
A month or so ago I was browsing a dating site that I am a member of and came across a profile that I found intersting. I sent him (who will be known as CAJT - Crazy Ass Joy Thief for the remainder of this post) a message and he responded with a message of his own. After a few days of emailing we exchanged numbers and CAJT and I began talking and texting regularly. He SEEMED nice, stable, responsible and not at all like a Crazy Ass Joy Thief.
We had our first date. Just a bite to eat at a mutually agreed upon location. I drove myself. I was taken aback by how shy he was but over all it was a decent date. We had our 2nd date. That one had more of a rough start. He got lost and was really late arriving at our agreed upon location. When he finally arived we enjoyed a quick bit to eat and then a movie. After the movie we walked the mall and he earned a few bonus points by buying me the book I needed to read for my book club. That's definately not the actions of a CAJT.
There were a few weeks between our second and third dates as we had Christmas and then New Years occupying our time. On the third date CAJT decided to come out of his shy shell and reaveal his true crazy self. I'll save some time and not give you the full blow by horrific blow and only high-light or should I say low-light the worst parts of the date includeing the big reveal of a whole lot of crazy.
Because CAJT and I had communicated quite a bit and been on two decent dates I felt comfortable with him picking me up. He was two hours late. I had just text him canceling when he said he was at my house. I went because I was still dressed and he was right outside. (I'm glad I went because if I hadn't I'd still not know he was CAJT). He did not plan the date well and I ended up suggesting a bowling alley for us. The car ride conversation revealed that he was a bit too conservative (for my liking) regarding gay people and white people adopting black chlderen. FYI, me and CAJT are both black. During bowling he was not friendly at all to the people in the lane next to us. He was also way too quiet. Needless to say I was already feeling like me and CAJT were not really a good match. As we were leaving the bowling alley he opend up his mouth and the Crazy came pooring out!!!
CAJT revealed that he is a member of a group that studies Ancient Egyptian Mysticism. He said he'd had to be initiated to join, they spend their meetigns handing out pamphlets and "propagating", and that the group helped him with his spiritual studies and focus. He meditated using CDs they provided which help him to focus so he could get a better job and not have to "WORK FOR THE BEAST" that's right he said "THE BEAST" he clarified that by the beast he ment The Devil. He continued on to say America along with Europe, China, and India are all "EVIL". He further confirmed his craziness by explaining that he used his mind to practice "PSYCHIC WARFARE" which helped him repelled evil forces.
Now you understand why he has so rightfully earned the title Crazy Ass Joy Thief. Needless to say I will not be seeing him again. Now I am just sorry I gave him my address to pick me up :-( He seemed to uderstand later when I explained that our spiritual values were too different for us to be compatible. So I don't anticipate any trouble from CAJT.
Now I'm left feeling like maybe it's time for me to take a little brake from trying to find Mr. Joy Chaser. Is this the Universe's/God's way of telling me to stop trying to force it, that love will find me and I don't have to look for it? What do you think Joy Chasers? Did you find your joy chasing partners when you were or were not looking? If you are single and looking like me have you ever had a date as bad as this one? If so please tell me about.