This is almost a daily life scenario for most of the parents with children less than 10 years of age. You will all agree that this method of shouting at the kid works 8 out of 10 times, if the behavior has been repeating for the 100th time.
But have you ever thought,
>> What goes into the brain of my child in this situation?>> Where are the neurons fired in his developing brain?>> What experience he records in his memory?>> Above all, what is the emotion that my child goes through at that exact moment?
These are some critical questions that every parent needs to ask themselves, especially standing in front of the mirror and making that exact same face when we discipline our children when they are not at their best behavior.
Do not be surprised with what goes through your child's brain:
>> When you stand tall and shout (I know you are disciplining but remember we are seeing the situation through the eyes of your child) - the child experiences a threat.
>> Reptilian Brain which is the oldest part of the human brain, is engaged. This part records a threatening experience in the memory and only gives flight, fright or fight reaction which will be nowhere close to the disciplined outcome you are expecting.>> And the emotion that comes out is either anger or sorrow or fear in most of the moments.We, as parents, should invest our time and energy to understand our child’s emotions and brain development right from the early stages. The child’s brain is like a house under construction and we need to be extra careful in what emotions and memories we put in there. Modern age parents focus mainly on developing the intellectual and learning part of the brain and the care for emotional part slips through the cracks.While you build the bridge to connect to the house of emotions of your child, it is very important to educate your child about their own emotions and also others'. This will feed their curiosity, improve their learning and help them regulate their emotions, with your support.
Kayal Kids Klub (K3), a club exclusively for children missioned to facilitate learning for children through creative methods and fostering emotional intelligence, is conducting a Mindfulness Workshop for Children (7-9 years) in Bangalore on 1st March 2020 at Enerjuvate Cafe & Studio, Koramangala.
This one of a kind workshop will facilitate your children:
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To understand the science behind emotions.>> To embrace various emotions and befriend them.>> Tot obtain skills to regulate their emotions using creative methods.Through this workshop your child will embark on a journey of emotional well-being and develop skills to make better decisions in life.I’m reaching out to all my fellow bloggers to spread the word about this mindfulness workshop for children and be part of this initiative.Book your child's ticket for an idiosyncratic experience with Kayal Kids Klub at Eventshigh and Kidengage.
Know more about Kayal Kids Klub at https://www.facebook.com/kayalkidsklub/
PS - This is certainly not a sponsored post. :)