However, it is possible to raise a respectful, well-balanced and above all, happy teenager and implementing some of the necessary tactics isn’t as hard as you may imagine.
Respect Goes Both Ways
During the teenage years is when most people begin to develop a sense of individuality and a large part of this is a need to feel respected as a person rather than dismissed as just a child.
In order for your teenager to be respectful to you and others around them, they must first feel somewhat respected and seen.
You can implement this by ensuring that you always listen to your teenagers thoughts and opinions.
Some of what they speak about might sound like complaining but read between the lines. For example, a teen who is suddenly reluctant to go to school might in fact be struggling socially or academically. Try to get to the bottom of their issues and then come up with strategies to help them.
If they are finding school difficult, you might consider discussing a change with them. Help older children research and find the best sixth form college to suit their needs. A child who has had some personal say in their education is more likely to enjoy school on a daily basis.
Set an Example
Teenagers are more affected by their parents than they would like to admit, so a large part of raising a respectful teen is showing them that you respect not only others but also yourself.
Most teenagers find people with a strong sense of self-respect to be somewhat inspiring and if they see you as their parent in that way, they will be more likely to follow the example you set.
Talk to them about your own hopes and ambitions as well as your own struggles – if they understand you are fallible too, they will be more likely to see you as a person and not just a parent.
Be Honest
While it is definitely important to be their parent before you’re their friend, engaging in open, honest conversations with your teenager will make them feel like less of an outsider among adults. This will naturally make them more respectful as they realize adults are not a collective enemy to rebel against.
While it can seem challenging to encourage your teenager to behave in a respectful manner, all you have to do is remember that teenagers are people too and in most cases, disrespect and rebellion are short lived phases we all go through in the journey of growing up.
K Elizabeth xoxox
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