I can say that my relationship has so much success. Me and my partner have very different roles but we see ourselves as often equal. We always take each view’s highly valuable or won’t compete with our interest as more important than the other. Also, we always make it definite that we are making fundamental contribution to our relationship and must know where we stand. That’s how we deal with the dominance thingy.
It is flattering everytime my partner asks for my opinion(oh he really does..like frequently). I feel more valued more than anything else and it shows that he really believes and trusts my views. Well likewise, I do believe in him as well especially in rationalizing my impeccable judgments sometimes. He is my second best counselor next to my family. That’s one of his roles, the counselor. And one of mine is his psychologist. Once he said that i am the pscyhologist of a psychologist-he is a psych grad so that’s why.
Making a joint decision on big issues will bring out all the creative solutions and you will learn how to compromise. Like for me, When we love to go somewhere, I always do the planning and he will intervene. Though sometimes he takes my role and I take his. I must admit that he is more creative than I am..~ sigh! So i make it to the point that i will just do the planning. hehe It’s like I am the compass and he is the captain. So basically, we are better together than being apart.
It feels so good when you know your role. You get to develop your strength that might be the weakness of your partner and vice versa. Just imagine how you both put back the missing puzzle in your lives and that being together completes the perfect picture. And that’s what we have right now. A complete movie picture!
