Jared and I record everything on TV, mostly because we hate commercials. There are so many interesting shows on, and we like to get a taste of all of them. We are both always intrigued by shows that strike us as Taboo. For instance, sister wives. It is a weird concept for us, but it’s really more like learning a different culture. We watched that whole series and really enjoyed it. So when we saw the show called “Polyamory”, we thought we needed to give it a try. It’s a show about 2 polyamory couples. It talks about their lifestyles, their culture, their sex life, and polyamory and what it means. It’s definitely an intriguing series, because to someone who is monogamous, it’s really a foreign concept grasp. It pushes your limits. To me it’s no different than religion, it’s not always what I believe and it wouldn’t make me happy, but some people wouldn’t have it any other way. These poly couples make it clear that they are happy, and polyamory is the source of their happiness. In the episode we watched last night, there was one girl in a triad (consisting of 2 girls and 1 man) that hadn’t come out to her mom.
Lindsay is the one coming out to her mom. She and her legally wed husband, Anthony and THEIR fiancé Vanessa all traveled to Lindsay’s moms. Her mom knew Vanessa as her best friend. They sit down, and have a friendly conversation, then Lindsay explains about opening her views and wanting to make oppressed groups feel welcome, and proceeds to tell her mom that her “best friend” was really a woman that she and her husband have fallen in love with, and they have chosen to make a life long commitment to each other as a triad. The music get’s all intense, and her mom just started to glow. She had a ginormous smile on her face, and immediately tells her daughter that she is proud of her. She is proud that she has the capacity to love 2 people that much, and any love should be worthy of celebration. She told her over and over that she was PROUD, she was more than excited to expand her family, because that is what family does. During this moment, I was laying on my bed cuddled up with my husband and I had a stream of tears flooding my face. I was so moved by how this mom reacted. I knew that the camera’s had captured a very raw moment. There was real emotion. Everyone on TV was crying and hugging and there was love radiating from my TV. My tears got stronger and turned into a faint bawling.
I looked at Jared, who was memorized by the moment. It really was beautiful. I had kind of had a squeaky voice from choking up my tears. I just looked up at him as I was laying on his lap, and said when we have kids, let’s agree now to accept and LOVE them no matter who they are, and what lifestyle they live. I want to be a mom like that mom. I want to be so proud because my daughter can love whomever she chooses. I want to look at my son, and know he is truly happy. I don’t care what that means. If my child is monogamous, bisexual, straight, gay, polyamorous, or any other life style, I will be happy. I will be proud to call them son and daughter. Everyone deserves to be happy. I am publicly announcing to my future babies, that I will love you no matter what. I promise your dad and I have made a commitment to be open minded toward our children.
I know that this was a TV episode, and it’s odd for reality TV to move me this much. That 3 minute clip made me want to be a better more accepting person. Not just of my future child, but of every one I come in contact with. I vow from this day on to be more accepting and less judgmental. I just want everyone to have a chance at happiness. I am so happy in my life. My path just happened to be a straight monogamous woman, but that doesn’t make me better than a polyamorous couple in any way. We are the same, they’re happy and we’re happy. That’s honestly it, Do what makes you happy!
Also while on the topic Happy 4th anniversary Ellen D. and Portia!
