I don’t mean to sound melancholy nor is gaining sympathy votes my purpose nor would I say that life’s been hard on me but there’s something definite and that is: I’ve frequently come across people who are not sincere to me. I’ve been involved in close friendships with them but in the end I figure out their motives which are not in my favour at all. Many of you must have got really good friends, best friends or special friends? I am sorry to say that these kind of words are like jinxes for me. Whoever I refer to with these titles turns out to be completely the opposite. Judging from my past experiences, I’ve learned to keep people at bay, at a distance, not confiding in them completely, not trusting them wholly, just treating them as comrades, nothing more, nothing less.
One thing that I’ve strongly believed in, that has been ground into my roots, is that your family is always sincere to you. They will never compromise on that level, ever. I’ve even experienced it and it’s true to some extent. My trust in my family has never wavered but I’ve started being cautious due to some recent turn of events. Let’s just say that some people who I loved very much since my childhood, do not have the same feelings towards me. They’ve demonstrated that before too but I ignored but lately, those signals have become too frequent. I haven’t had the heart to discuss it with my mother or father since they’ll just be very disappointed in those people as well and we don’t need anymore of that, do we?
Another thing that I’ve learned, and I learned it the hard way, was that never EVER give your advice to people who do not deserve it. I have done that a lot of times only to realize later that the hardships a certain person was suffering from, for which I gave them advice, actually deserved them! Now, you must be thinking that I said this because maybe that person hadn’t thanked me for my advice or something? Oh no! I never wanted gratitude. I just wanted a certain person’s ease, nothing short of it. But do you know what I got in return? Taunts about my personality. And I thought out loud “Is that what you really think I am?!” That IS supposed to put me off, right? I mean, I do show outward composure (have been very well practiced at that) but from the inside it is a completely different story.
I’m the kind of person who likes to solve things for people, fight on their behalf and give them their rights. Something happened once and I stopped granting favours like these except for the ones who really deserved them. I did somebody a favour and I got stones thrown at me in return. I haven’t completely specified all of this but believe me, I had the person’s best interests at heart and my instincts proved to be right as time moved on. There are some who I’ve helped just out of friendship, doing minor favours for them and everything and who do they harp strings about? Not me, that’s for sure, but about those who seem very charming to them- for now, that is.
I donot mean to impose on you all that I’ve got a perfect personality or anything like that. I have many flaws. But betraying people is not one of those. The fact is that there are some people who will never value you at all, whatever you might do for them and I think that before we jump into giving them a helping hand, we should evaluate them, be cautious and not trust them so readily. I’m sure that most you must be related to great people who might be your friends and relatives but for those of you who aren’t, there’s no need to be made a fool of.
From what I’ve learned through my life events is that make a LOT of friends, you’ll enjoy them, but never be too close to them. It’s really not necessary when you’ve got an amazing family around to share your secrets with. Another thing is that pray that the people who you come in contact with are always sincere to you and value you.
I hope you all have a great day today! 
