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Happy New Year to My Readers!
Did you ever feel as though you are living on borrowed time? Just getting by and not having the resources to get you "over the hump"?
It might be a good time and a good year to change out of those clothes and try on something different. As we all know, new years are a chance to improve, set some goals and rediscover ourselves. To start, ask yourself "what might be holding me back?" but don't take it too seriously...
I heard on the radio not too long ago that the percentage of married people is at a low. There are actually more single people out there. That fact alone makes me think that maybe society really does have an impact on my personal life and the things that I'm experiencing...then I think deeper...
Well, if this is the case with people not opting for marriage anymore, this could directly affect my life, yes, it could. There are people out of work, who can't hold secure jobs anymore and who, with no doubt, don't want to delve into a relationship and start a family if they cannot afford to do so. I think there is more of this out there than we think. It is sad, that there can't be steady jobs and opportunities anymore. How is a person supposed to buy a house, start a family, if they don't know where their next paycheck is coming from or if they may not get one at all? Makes you think, right? Then, if this is happening...more and more people are not going into relationships...therefore, being single is the result.
I also hear a lot from people in day to day situations that their loving friends talk them out of situations that might be right for them. I hear this all the time, a married guy advises a single guy to not get married or have kids, for whatever reason, because they're experiencing hardship with the situation. I'm actually appalled by this...why rob someone of an experience just because you yourself haven't had a good experience? What if that person thought they didn't want to get married or have kids and your comments drove them away from even trying? You've robbed them of an experience is what you did.
They could have gone off and tried experiencing some of these things for themselves and discovered that they loved being a dad, and they were the greatest dad in the world or loved being married and couldn't imagine life without their spouse. It's almost like animal owners, the ones that say they never really cared for animals or didn't like the pet they chose and then the pet grew on them and then they realized life without that pet they once hated would be a tragedy!
I've also heard of some former married women (divorcees) who look at brides or married women and think "sucker" in their heads. Wow...that is harsh and deep at the same time...same thing. Your experience (which in reality might have been a very bad one and very real to you), is not every one's experience...Would anyone out there also feel this way when they see a bride in white? Let me know if so...
I think my last point on this topic is women who give themselves over to freely to men. I don't think there is any reason for a relationship (a dating relationship) anymore quite frankly. Gone are the days when men would ask you out for months on end and lavish you with dinners, jewelry, gifts and what not only to come to the year 2012 when you'd be very lucky if someone bought you a lousy cup of coffee or a bottled water.
Why has this happened? Men don't have to do as much for what they desire...There is a plethora of women who will give over to the men what they want, when they want it, without having to do anything for it. That in a nutshell is a major problem that I believe spoils it for the rest of us - big time. Sorry ladies. I hope I didn't offend anyone, but it's the truth. We have to be more selective and not give out our goods so fast. Remember Rachel...in the Bible...Jacob had to work seven years before Rachel could be his bride...He loved her so much the seven years didn't even phase him...
With this in mind, I hope that you can stop living in fear and let go of some of the baggage that being single brings. As I've illustrated above, there could be many reasons for being single, even many more than the ones that I've mentioned or could even conceive of...I hope you can develop your own pattern for the new year that works and compete with yourself to improve. Don't worry about what others are doing...
Challenge yourself!
