Marriage Mondays: Being Healthy for Your Mate

Posted on the 23 May 2011 by Shawndrarussell
He said:
She said: I am hard on Gary about getting healthier. I have moments of all-out panic and paranoia when I think about Gary and I getting older (I have a serious problem with getting older anyway, but that's for another post!). Anyway, I just want us to live long, happy lives together and the only way for that to happen in my opinion is if we are both healthy and take care of ourselves NOW. We aren't getting any younger! Gary is blessed with a ridiculous metabolism so he never looks heavy. He also has great skin and is athletic (I'm allowed to brag about him, right?!), all which help him think that he is Superman and doesn't need to go to the doctor regularly or workout. The other day I completely blew up for a minute because he got on the scale and said, "Wow! I've lost ten pounds!" Infuriating, especially because I work out every single day just to not gain weight (losing weight for me means cutting out all carbs and running for miles which I am just not willing to put myself through on a daily basis, although I will do bouts a few times a year to drop those pesky 5 pounds!). Besides wanting him to be healthy so I don't have to be his full-time nurse in our old age (which I would do of course but would much rather be traveling all over the world with him and doing fun stuff together!), I would also like to work out together. I wish Gary would go on a run with me because selfishly it would help motivate me, but I also think it would be a good bonding experience. Just like on a team, struggling together makes you stronger, and I think that would be true for us too. We used to play tennis, basketball, go on bike rides, but for whatever reasons we rarely do anymore, and this makes me sad. I hope we can get back into a more active lifestyle together that we can keep up indefinitely. The good news is that we do eat really healthy thanks to Gary's wonderful cooking (I am completely spoiled and lucky to have a man that is an excellent cook and finds it relaxing to do after work). We make our own pizzas, Thai, Mexican, which he makes so much healthier than restaurant fare! Just a little olive oil for most dishes, loads of veggies, and lean meats. Now about that run...