ChristianMingle.com pisses me off.
You might find this a somewhat ironic statement. I'm a Christian, right? Well, yes. And I'm single, right? Well, yes. So why do I have a problem with ChristianMingle.com? Wouldn't it be a great way for me to meet a great Christian guy without having to wade through a bunch of awkward requests from non-Christians on the other dating sites? Well, theoretically, yes. But it still pisses me off.
Why?
Let me give a little bit of background for you all.
I didn't always
And then I saw it.
I was looking up lyrics for some song and on the sidebar was an ad for Christian Mingle. And in that moment my thoughts about Christian Mingle changed from "It's a little bit ridiculous" to "I
Why? Because of this...
![My Christian Mingle Rant. My Christian Mingle Rant.](http://m5.paperblog.com/i/14/142452/my-christian-mingle-rant-L-0DgB9q.jpeg)
That's a screenshot of the top of the Christian Mingle homepage. I think the slogan "Find God's Match for You" is a bit cliche, but that's not the issue. The issue I have is the verse below it. (Nevermind the fact that I just noticed that they wrote "Psalms" when it should be "Psalm.)
I remember the first time I read this verse as a kid. I thought, "This is awesome! So as long as I follow Jesus, He'll give me whatever I want!" Right? Wrong.
That's the Prosperity Gospel and it's completely unBiblical.
I also remember the first time I read Psalm 37:4 and realized what it actually means.
The words of Psalm 37:4 are quite possibly one of the most common verses to take out of context. I've heard it thrown all over the place in my years and at least 75% of the time people use it in the Prosperity Gospel context, and I'm sorry, but that's wrong.
So what does Psalm 37:4 mean? If it's not saying that God will give me whatever I want when I delight myself in Him, what does it mean?
Well, it does mean that God will give you what you want when you delight yourself in Him.
Wait...what? I thought you just said...
But there's a catch. See, there's this funny thing that happens when you decide to follow Jesus and you delight yourself in Him each and every day. It's called transformation.
So God does gives you exactly what you want when you delight yourself in Him. But that's because when you delight yourself in Him, His desires for you become your desires for you. Funny how that works, huh?
I'm all for Christian men dating and marrying Christian women. I think there needs to be more couples who are pursuing a Biblical picture of marriage in this country and the world. But I am not okay with a company using Scripture out of context and misleading people into believing that if they delight themselves in the Lord, He will bring them a spouse. That's just not Biblical. It's false advertising and it's wrong.
I have no desire whatsoever to use any online dating site. Maybe if I'm 35 and still single, but I've got 12 years before that happens. But I can say without a doubt, that if I ever do, I will not go to Christian Mingle.
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