Digg DiggI have a confession to make, it has been a really rough couple years. With all the challenges has come a profound personal growth. In writing this, I hope that it may touch some of you as many of you have touched me online. I have learned an immense amount from all of those of you whether you are a reader commenting, are someone I networked with through social media or you have your own blog and you have shared your information. I feel truly blessed by all that is in my life.
2 years ago, it all started with a simple surgery (gall bladder) that let do some complications (missed common bile duct stenosis and pancreatic duct stenosis) that led to more procedures( ERCP) and more complications (ERCP induced pancreatitis). Coupled with an unexpected move, watching a human rights violation unfold equals a very long couple of years. If you have never personally witnessed someone else’s human rights being violated it is like watching a pedophile about to attack and being helpless to do anything about it. (Something that I had never seen while living in the USA)
Fortunately, I have physically recovered 100% and mentally I am all that much stronger. If I look at what has helped me carry on it has largely been my upbringing. My parents are Eastern European (Serbian), a resilient bunch. They instilled in me the “you just carry on” mentality”. And they would say “Depression, what is depression?” I say this cautiously as being in the medical field, there is so much more to it than this. But from their cultural perspective, it is a good coping mechanism.
As one of my good friends has said when you are faced with loss after loss (in my case challenge after challenge) it can be difficult to keep smiling. And as Katie Perry sings, after the hurricane, comes the rainbow. Here is to finding our rainbows in 2012.
Reflections
I have spent a lot of time reflecting this past month about: goals, what I want to change or do different and evaluating where I would like to take my life/our family’s life. I brainstormed (mind mapped) these goals over a period of 3 sessions.
After doing so, I read a most interesting post on Zen Habits where the author, Joshua Fields Millburn stated that he was much happier living without goals. Sorry I am going to call him on this: He. Has. Goals.
What I think he meant was he wasn’t going to put unnecessary stress on himself if he didn’t meet his goals (he is writing a book) and he wasn’t going to be making the laundry list of goals any longer. I hope he doesn’t mind that I have interpreted this way and am also glad he has found happiness without “goals”.
Over the past few months, I have started to take the pressure off myself so I can enjoy and be in the moment with my projects, with my kids etc. So in this aspect I agree with Joshua, take the pressure off yourself! With kids and life there are so many unexpected things that have come up in the past 2 years. Sometimes these unexpected occurrences consumed months of my time. I have decided to be kind to myself. And like Joshua, I too am enjoying.
To Ungoals for 2012
So if I am taking the pressure off myself indefinitely, do I even need to be writing down goals? This post? Yes, it will serve to give me direction.
Here is my method. I set aside 15-20 minutes for free flow writing/ brainstorming of my goals for 2012 and beyond. It is easy to be unrealistic about what you can achieve in a year. Narrow your list down and make sure you are being realistic. I then put the list aside and repeated the process in a week. I looked to see if my goals were the same and if I had anything more to add. By the third attempt, I had exhausted what came to mind and so I knew I was done with the list.
I type my lists as well as print them as I need to be able to see them on paper not just the computer screen. I have lists for all aspects of my life: family, medical career, website, my book project, a mentoring project I am involved in, an upcoming presentation at a business conference and several other projects. I put these lists in clear folders and as I work on a goal/project I simply pull out a folder and work on it bit by bit
The secret
People always ask me how do you do so much? Here is the secret: doing a little bit each day or week, then by the end of one year you will have amassed A LOT. Also focus on consistently doing little bits.
So in a nutshell, consistently doing little bits is “The Secret”. Now if only I had written a book that sold millions!
My goals
Medical Career
- Start an online education in Functional Medicine
- Incorporate Functional medicine into my career
- Incorporate coaching as a means to empower my patients to make changes in their lives
Website
- Focus on adding more informational videos
- Learn to edit video through iMovie or other (in process now!)
- Rebrand to something more universal and long lasting than ExpatDoctorMom (A dozen domain names have been bought!)
- Work on learning SEO and use it to increase exposure
- Create a social media strategy
- Land a major speaking gig (see below)
- Set up schedule for Social Media so that it doesn’t consume my time and remains enjoyable
- Learn to create songs through garage band. Would be one off the bucket list.
- Create my first product: eBook. My topic has been selected, more on this later.
- Launch niche sites. My thoughts are if those around me can do it, so can I! Would be a great way to make extra money.
- Be on the cover of a magazine for fun!
Mentoring Project
- Write blog posts following the mentoring program so others can benefit along with my mentee
Children’s Book
- Get it published in 2012 (fingers crossed, I have pitched this to a sponsor who is interested in funding the project)
- Self publish on create space if the project is not sponsored
Business Conference Presentation (How Women Work March 2012)
- Prepare a killer presentation on using Social Media with Christina Paschyn who one woman referred to as my daughter. Compliment and insult at the same time as it is not biologically possible! Ironically Christina and I grew up in the same suburb of Cleveland: Parma!
- Record the presentation. Use it as a call to action on my site and to land that speaking gig
Family/Home
- Support my children’s education through activities at home. I am not a tiger mom but, I firmly believe that regardless of whether your kids are in a good school or not, it is important to guide their education. Specifically, I want to foster their ability to become entrepreneurs if they choose to.
- Support spouse in finding a better quality of life.
- Relax about accomplishing above so that I can enjoy the journey
Your turn
What do you think about having goals? And what did you like about my website? Dislike? What do you want me to see more of? Do tell so I can make this an epic year at Expatdoctormom!
