There are so many of us who feel that if we don't think about the person then we won't feel the pain of loosing them but the opposite is true, we will try and numb the pain but we will still feel it, coming in waves when something reminds us of them, and it could be the smallest random thing that sparks it off.
I found that the more I thought about all the things that we did together, and laughed at those moments it helped me wade through the pain. The more I did it I found that when I did think about them I would think back to joyous times, the times we shared and the things that they would have wanted to be remembered for. One of the saddest things we can do is to decide not to think about the person as if they never existed because we cannot bear the pain, without realizing that when we do journey through instead of covering up we will have some amazing stories of strength, love and compassion, our memories of our loved ones will intensify without the pain, and we will be able to find laughter at those times we shared.
You are not alone
I will always miss the physical presence of the person but the feeling of their spiritual presence as if they were in the room sharing the moments that I am going through fills me with comfort. If you are going through the loss of a loved one, take your time, it is a gradual process and I am here if you want to share. If you are able to journal or do something in your art journal you will also find comfort in creativity. Don't shut yourself away but reach out and as you are blessed be a blessing to another.