Jared put her outside, and I kept my mouth shut for about 15 minutes, and we were both sitting in silence. Finally I said after she's been out there for another 20 minutes I am bringing her inside. Jared was upset, because he thought she needed to realize that chewing up our floorboards was unacceptable, in my head I thought she knew because we never put her outside in the kennel. So obviously the disconnect is there. We ended up compromising, after a tearful fight... the tears were only coming from me. We brought Shia inside, and she stayed in her kennel. I fell asleep (crying and fighting makes me really sleepy), and I woke up to Jared letting Shia get up in the bed to sleep with us. Shia took her normal sleeping position curled up to my back and in between Jared and I. We all slept. I curled up with Jared this morning feeling guilty that we had an argument, and we weren't able to solve it right then. We talked and cuddled a bit before I left for work. When he got too work he text me, and I text him back. All is well.
I don't know if we have such an emotional fight, and such different views over Shia chewing on our floor molding, how we'd ever be able to parent together? Shia is the only reason Jared and I ever argue. I think it's because we always have been able to compromise, when dealing with just us. We both can be selfish or selfless, and that's that. But when it comes to a 3rd life form that cannot speak or talk for herself, we are a wreck.