You're not a boiling water tap that can just keep going and going without a little maintenance here and there. We are all human. Everyone reaches a point in their lives where they feel overwhelmed, confused, and conflicted.
1. Social Media Cleanse
You may be guilty of mindlessly scrolling through social media, promising yourself youll do this and you’ll do that to live a happier life.
Forget about the lives other people are living. Give yourself an opportunity to press a refresh button. Ignore the likes, dislikes, comments, and shares for once.
This is not to say go AWOL and abandon all forms of communication. A social media cleanse can be temporary and can help you learn how to live life on your own terms again.
Start small and turn off your social media notifications one at a time. When you feel comfortable, delete the accounts that spread negativity, follow influencers or people that shed light on topics that fit your interests.
Before you know it, you’ll be on social media when you want to, but never to pass the day.
2. Inner Work
You can’t start making positive changes in your life unless youre aware of what’s going inside your head. Let’s start with a few scenarios:
- You want to be more productive but can’t seem to find the motivation
- Working out seems like a drag, but you want to get into fitness
- Tensions in your household are high, but you always dreamed of a picture-perfect family
Acknolwdge there are factors outside of your control and know what you can change. It’s close to impossible to change someone else’s perspective or mindset, but you can work on yours.
3. It’s All You
Stop concerning yourself with how others perceive you. There will always be people criticizing and making harsh judgements based on small interactions.
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Remember, focus on what you’re doing.
Let other people’s judgements slide off of you like butter. As long as you know you are doing your very best to improve, ignore the haters.
It’s easier said than done of course.
4. Who Stays & Who Leaves
Part of becoming a better version of yourself and being attentive to your mental health involves understainding the types of relationships you are involved in. Most importantly, who you surround yourself with on a daily basis.
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Family plays a pivotal role in one’s mental health, so take a close look at who suppports or demoralizes you. Despite the intimate connection, ask yourself one question, “How is this person adding value to my life?”
Same thing with your friendships. Turning you back on people sounds harsh, but if it’s the step needed to achieve positive results, then ease into it.
5. Learn Your Triggers
Make a list of what makes you upset throughout a regular day. When you get upset, angry, or frustrated, write what caused the trigger. What was so important, if you will, that it could ruin your day?
Some triggers might include:
- Spread of rumors
- Physical, sexual, emotional abuse
- Personal conflicts
- Death or loss
- Illness
- Use of alcohol
- Some medications
