The Mom Competition

Isn’t it funny howonce women become moms...we become competitive?Our conversations nowrevolve around your children’s stats, abilities, progress, etc...It is almost as if wegauge our success as a Mom solely on the success of your childCrazy, right?!?!I have caught myselfone too many times comparing my kiddos to othersAnd it is a Horriblefeeling.We were blessed witha lil lady that did everything earlyand we had no ideabecause she was our first.We thought it was thenorm.
And then came the lilman.With the expectationshis sis left before himAnd those timelinescame and went...And I started gettingquestioned while out at TargetAnd the liftedeyebrows look from other moms judging my ability as a MomAnd the “oh, shouldn’the be talking by now?”And the “well my sonwas potty trained by 2”And the “oh wow...heis a BIG boy, shouldn’t he be talking”And on....and on....andon....
I never experienced anyof this with the lil ladyAnd it sucks....itmakes me feel like I am doing something wrongHe is our 2^ndbabyHe is a boyHe is most likely ourlast (still up for debate, thisbaby fever is strong) So I baby him and I snuggle with him. He is my Buddy.I am not ready tostop rocking him at night I am not ready tohave him speak sentencesI am not ready forhim to not be a baby.




So...Please don’t tell mehe is “late” on talking because he is not – he understands everything you say to him and he does have a handful of wordsPlease don’t tell mehe should be at a level he is not at yet...because he is a perfectly fine 18month oldPlease stop comparingmy children – they are COMPLETELY differentPlease stop tellingme he is “BIG” for his age because he is in the 75% for height and 35% forweight....he is not off the charts by any meansPlease stop askingwhen he is going to get more teeth..because I have no idea and to be honest, hemanages just fine with the 6 he hasPlease stop telling me I look TOOO young to have little ones...(since when did 29 become young?!?)I challenge all of us moms (myself included) to stop judging and to focus that energy on our own children instead - deal?!?!? Deal!