Want to know a secret? As much as we exchange heartfelt emotions on not letting each other go, someday that friendship sees an expiry. We wave it off as a sick game that time and fate played but here are three possible reasons to why it may have fell apart.
Egoistical Expectations
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In these modern day friendships, where the internet and social media sets standards to ‘friendship goals’, not many individuals give in to each other. When you start hoping for your friend to return a lunch gesture or even tweet about you, you are on the way to set highly unrealistic expectations in a friendship, and when that doesn’t meet, you call it quits.
Everyone has their own capabilities and it applies the same for effort too. If someone cannot put in a hundred but try to at every given opportunity, then it should be understandable. New age friendships shouldn’t be a business contract, every effort taken must be commendable.
Morals and Values
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I’ve read this analogy somewhere that says “Your first impression of a person explains your upbringing, the subsequent one reflects on who you truly are.” It applies adeptly for new age friendships where you form the most unexpected ties with strangers and break ties with your closest bonds. Friendships have a way of seeking a common ground, but if an individual’s morals and values are seemingly stronger than the purpose of that friendship, we have a problem.
We all have had friends whose habits or actions we’d never condone. Some of us may still have those friends whose behavior is a huge no. We may stick on during the initial stages and advise them as the good friend we are but as time catches up, we may have had found ourselves asking if this friendship is worth the shot in the long run. As much as we tolerate, I believe there should be a limit to everything, even the friendship you worship. Maybe then we are saved from a falling out.
External Parties
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In layman terms, it is also known as a ‘third wheel’ and this is widely known to even be the cause of relationships turning sour. Hey couples, if you think that third-wheeling only happens in relationships and that’s bad, you’re wrong. It’s worst in friendships. Even worst when your best friend finds a significant other and he/she no longer invites you for party nights and randomly texts you because they spend all their time being in love and they don’t feel the need for your presence anymore.
Or, when someone else calls your best friend their best friend and they voluntarily turn up at every meeting with your best friend without even asking you. Sooner or later, you’re kicked out of those meetings. Oh the joy.
Sometimes we feel the need to mingle with other people apart from our usual squad, and sometimes it may feel like we’ve been replaced by our usual squad. We all have been the external party and on the receiving end of it too. I personally take it as a test, because no matter how many times we stray away from our self-made path, we come back if the friendship game is real.
Shout-out to those friendships who have come a long way despite current societal pressures and the above mentioned reasons. Take it in a positive light. If not for a friendship that has fallen apart, a good lesson is never learnt.
