Diaries Magazine
[The Ordinary Moments] The Good Days and the Not So Good Days
Posted on the 06 September 2015 by Alex_bumptobaby @bumptobaby_blogI think it's pretty easy to underestimate how challenging being a Mummy of two (or more) when you're partner isn't around to support you, is - especially when your littles are at the toddler and newborn stage.
There are the good days where everything seems to go semi or mostly smoothly and then there are the not-so-good days, the ones that are rather overwhelming. I don't think calling them 'bad days' is really the word.. I don't think any days with my children are bad, so long as they're fed, watered and healthy, but there certainly are those challenging and overwhelming days.
For me, Friday was one of those days.. Logan refused to settle the entire day, continually crying for, I really don't know what (I'd tried everything I knew to try), all the while Ethan was left to entertain himself. He'd bring me something over, wanting me to play with him but with Logan in my arms all day, trying to soothe him, I had to explain that I couldn't right now and then he'd walk off looking disappointed and then I'd sit there overcome with that far too common and familiar, 'Mummy guilt'. I posted a photo on Instagram (whilst laying on a dirty nappy) of Logan finally asleep on me at ten to five but by five past five he was awake again and crying. He finally fell asleep as Adam walked through the door from work at 10pm.. I'd not even managed to get Ethan in bed at this point. After we got them into bed following a team effort, I went downstairs to tend to my cat who sadly, is very poorly at the moment. I fell into bed around 11pm, I had been looking forward to at least a cup of tea, but I didn't even find a chance for that. So yeah - that was definitely a not-so-good day.
Today (Saturday) has been better.. we made the cakes that I'd promised Ethan we'd make all day yesterday, just as soon as Logan went to sleep. I sat and played trains with Ethan and we learnt colours together (making piles of different coloured toys). I bathed my boys together - the first time they've shared a bath and then I snapped pictures of them, wrapped up in their towels whilst they laid there sweetly smiling at me. I managed to order the shopping, wear make up, drink a warm cup of tea and even write this blog post. Adam finishes at 4pm today and then we're going to be going to a wedding reception together this evening, whilst my sister-in-law babysits the boys. So yeah - you could say that today's been a good day (so far anyway and it would be made a million times better if my cat Shadow would start to feel a little better of course).
Us parents all go through the not-so-good days, the ones where we think we literally cannot take anymore. But then there's always tomorrow - a new fresh day, one that's probably going to be a thousand times easier. Because, no day as a parent ever really seems to be the same.
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