I was wanting to tell you guys what's going on, but was unsure of the time-frame in which I wanted to start spilling my life's guts all over this virtual floor.
The truth is, I am not afraid of you and I really don't give a shit what you think. Yes, I said shit on this here blog. Moving on...
My husband and I are getting a divorce, in fact, it is going to be finalized very soon. I am not proud of this life accomplishment, but I also think that there is a point where a person has to do what they have to do. I do not want to get too much into detail because I do have class, but I do want to say that I am happy with this decision. I definitely look at marriage differently, and I am even more certain of what I want and need in a man. I also am certain of what I want in a marriage. Trust me, if you want to know the truth about marriage don't ask a newlywed couple who has been married for 5 minutes, ask those who have been plagued by the loss and pain of divorce. As strange as it sounds, they are experts when it comes to marriage. Why? Because they have seen it fail. They know what to do, and they know what not to do.
I used to speak about divorce here (divorce prevention, I guess) and I wish I didn't. I didn't know anything about the subject, and the truth is, you newlywed bloggers don't have a clue about "what makes a strong marriage". Not that you don't have hard times, but come on, what do you really know? You know about date nights, cute little notes and flowers, and how to say "I love you", and cuddle. Let me tell you something. It takes a hell of a lot more than some flowers, a vacation, and sweet notes to make a marriage work. It takes JESUS (for me anyway), honesty, loyalty, trust, diligence, integrity, compassion, patience, communication, passion, and compromise...Please leave your "To Do's" where they belong. On your notepad. If you want to talk about marriage, be sure to include the nitty gritty, otherwise, save it. We have to stop idealizing marriage and be honest about what it means to be married. I think if we did, maybe there would be less marriages ending in divorce. Hmmm...
I apologize if this offends any of you, at the same time, I am blowing this joint and starting a whole new blog anyway, so might as well go out with a bang, right?!
Do I still believe in love and marriage? Absolutely! With the right person who is loyal and honest. Take that and do what you will with it.
Thanks to all of my readers for being so patient and understanding. I especially appreciate the emails of care, concern, and support. You are all awesome! I will let you in on my new blog as soon as its ready. Just know it will focus on ME and not dating, marriage, or love. At least, not for a while.
*If you'd like to comment on this post that is fine, but please know that rude or judgmental comments will be removed. I know that Christians "don't divorce", but statistics and common sense says otherwise. I am still a Christian, saved by grace, and covered by forgiveness. So, take your small minded comments elsewhere. Thank you.*
