Trust yourself. It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done to complete myself. It requires dignity of me. I have to resolve wihtin myself thatI know that I have good information behind my voice, and I have a very good reason for following it.
I admit, trusting myself and my decisions has not always been easy. I have found that trusting me took a long time, because I’ve made some impulsive, quick decisions which turned out to be quite costly in the long run.
My journey to learning to trust myself began when I realized i was creating a really destructive path to nowhere in my life. The reason I realized I was being self–destructive was because I was not growing. In fact, I was falling apart. I was feel worse and worse about being me and my self-pride and confidence was on vacation.
PJ Swan, LPC a counselor makes a good point about trust - “ Trust grows slowly, piece by piece, with every good decision that is made. “Trust-building is not an end in and of itself,” says Swan. “It is an ongoing process of renegotiation and personal and collective growth that is required in every relationship.”
Although Swan was peaking to the relationship between families, I believe it still applies to the relationship we have with ourselves.
So what kind of relationship do you have with yourself? Here are a few pointers about how to define your voice within:
Do you think through your decisions and why you make them?
Do you stop to listen to your heart?
Do you have dialogue with yourself ( or with God) about your decision-making?
After you have made a decision do you often ask yourself why you made that decision?
Many times before you make a decision, you oftne to have to walk yourself through it before you actually do it. Seek the outcomes that arefavorable and seek someone else’s decision ( someone you turst with respoect, and with lots of wisdom) before you do.
I asked a few freinds about what they consider to be CONFIDENCE.
here are some fo the answers. i will highlight the ones that speak to trusting your voice:
Confidence is:
- Choosing not to be ashamed.
- Not losing my voice. SPEAKING UP!
- Trusting myself & knowing how to access the resources I need if I need assistance.
- Trusting my instincts and my thoughts.
- Communicating my boundaries well.
- Spiritual security.
- Awareness.
- Understanding.
- Having more than enough, hope, love, belongingness, having a meaningful history that I can share.
- Not being easily embarrassed.
- Being clear about what’s being said and knowing & stating my opinion about it.
- Humility. (Being fine with what I don’t know).
- Seeing life and death as equal.
- Being willing to ASK FOR HELP with something I think I should already know and then actually LISTENING as though my life depended on it.
- Being able to distinguish my feelings about what happened and what actually happened.
- Being able to handle my emotions (self-control) and find a resource or outlet to keep me centered.
- Whether I am having a confident moment or not, knowing the difference is what matters.
- When you really know from deep within who you are.
- Being confident in a business situation when I understand the task in front of me
- Being on time, well informed and organized helps me to be confident as well. Not wasting time.
- Constant and consistent companionship and unconditional support in my mate. Having a secure attachment; when my partner treats me in a way that is admirable.
- Having a mate who genuinely loves GOD.
- Having a sense of vulnerability to God’s power .
- When I know I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and my inner man is intact and I have direct access to the Father.
- When I am healthy and physically fit.
- Feeling good in my own skin.
- Knowing I have a back-up plan, and that GOD has my back.
- Not fearing abandonment or rejection (of people) and being secure in God.
- I exude confidence when I’m living with purpose, operating with passion and walking in obedience.
- Trusting myself & knowing how to access resource if I need assistance.
- When I have the love of my family.
- I feel confident when I have balance. I am able to take care of things and be accepting to help and freely ask for help.
- I feel confident when I am totally sure of myself in any situation.
- I don’t have to change “ME” to suit anyone else.
- I can accept someone else’s ideas/ thoughts, and my expressions and my ideas are totally MINE!!!
- My confidence is all over me when I love who am.
- When I’m fighting strong, no fear of consequences, and I walk strong and tall. I am like a giant in my spirit.
- When I love me, I like me, I love the way I look, what my mind is on and there is a glow about me.
- I can greatly bless someone else because I have joy; there’s exuberance in my spirit.
- I stand my ground in a righteous thing.
- My purpose is to express my inner self…that is of paramount importance to me, to engage in purposeful, teaching/learning dialogue.
- A compliment is welcomed and received adding to the good feeling I have deep down in my soul.
- When I am gracious and extend grace.
- When I can quietly take care of business.
- When I don’t NEED to say everything I think.
- When I show a good balance with boundaries with myself and with others.
- Not being afraid to express myself.
- When I respect others and respect myself.
- When I stand for righteousness and in what I believe.
- When I really consider about what I believe about a subject and have formulated a good opinion & I can stick by it.
- When a woman doesn’t allow or need a man (or a woman) to define their identity.
- My identity is well-rooted in (God) & not in the world’s thinking.
