Today Joanne shares her thoughts on whether there really is a 'right' age gap between children, a subject often wondered by parents.
What’s the right age gap between children?
Two point seven six years. Anything else and your child will turn out dreadfully warped and mangled.
OK, only joking.
There’s a straightforward answer to this one, because the truth is that there’s no such thing as the best age gap, just as there’s no such thing as the ‘right’ age to have a baby. It’s a question of what works best for your family, plus how much your body is willing to get with the programme.
My daughter was three and a half when I had my son, and that felt like the right age gap for us. I didn’t have to deal with two children in nappies at the same time, and my daughter had her own established life and friends which continued, so it’s not like everything had to change for her when the baby came along.
Some parents I know who’ve had a very close age gap have complained that they didn’t have enough time alone with their eldest before the next one was on the way. Others say that a close age gap has worked just fine for them, as it means that their children are going through the same stages in fairly close succession and can become good friends in the process.
And of course, for many of us the age gap between siblings is determined by fertility, and how long it takes you to get pregnant – something over which we have little control. So as much as we may agonise as to when to add to our families, the truth is that you might as well not bother.
If you are considering having another child, trust your instinct and don’t over-think it too much. There are always “What ifs?” when it comes to major life decisions, and you could drive yourself mad trying to consider them all. Just accept that whatever age gap you end up with will turn out to be the right one for your family.