There have been subtle clues throughout the years.
- They think slutty me took their son's virginity and ruined his Catholic purity. Nope, he was ruined before I got to him.
- When we broke up for 48 hours, M's dad heard him talking to me on the phone and said "You're still talking to THAT girl?" and then stomped away pissed. I heard it in the background. This was after we'd been together for a year.
- When I moved to Maryland, his dad wouldn't let him borrow a car to help me move because it was a waste of mileage for someone M was just going to break up with. Because I was bound to cheat on him as soon as I moved away. Seriously, M nearly went crazy on him for saying this.
- I would always go on vacation to see family and M would come with me. We have been to DC, North Carolina, California, and Texas - all places where I have parents who we've stayed with to save money or got a free trip from a TV show. Apparently this was me being "spoiled" - exact description of me.
It hurts in a way to know that after 3 years together, he still doesn't have the guts to stand up against what they think. I'm no undesirable woman version of Beau Hunk.
1) I am not ugly or smelly or repulsive
2) I ran a marathon and passed the CPA in the time that they've known me
3) I have a job that pays well in a very stable industry
4) I'm getting my masters
5) I have always paid for M at restaurants, bars, vacations - you name it
6) I have texted them on their birthdays
7) I have always acted excited about their gifts (hand sanitizer and extra extra small sweaters)
8) I have always bought them gifts
9) I haven't gotten knocked up by their son
10) I haven't unleashed my crazy teenage drama side
I have a lot of factors against me:
1) I'm not Catholic or even Christian (but I've attended two masses with them and behaved)
2) I come from a pretty broken up family
3) I make more money than his dad does
4) I drink a lot (their son drinks more)
5) I've been to Europe
Um, that's it. Where's my damn ring?