"Fear stays as long as you let it stay"
Everybody has their own share of fear. It doesn't spare anyone-poor and rich, educated and uneducated, wise and foolish, young and old, all are engulfed with fear in their lives.
Does it come with birth?
Do you know how a baby feels when she is born? She feels nothing, looks to other people and takes a cue from them. Happiness and Fear both are elusive to her. She does not wink even in front of an animal; fear of animals is unknown to her. Even a knife doesn’t attract a fearful reaction from her? Then how this fear induces as she grows older? Her parents make her fear of certain things; they want to control her life and avoid her tantrums, in return they make things easy for themselves. Barking of the dog, howling of wolf, meow of cat, of a stranger-uncle, are some instilled fears in the baby.
Parents think that as kids grow up, become mature, these fears will go away. They are right, they go away only to be replaced by the bigger fears of life. Fear of not getting good grades, of public humiliation, of not looking good, of not winning with friends, of losing best friends, of a punishment in school replaces these fears. They struggle and only struggle with these fears, sometimes win over them and sometimes swept away by them.
As they grow further, Public humiliation, fewer likes on a social media post, not getting enough importance, not getting a good job, not getting a boyfriend, find their place in people’s lives and stay with them for a long time. It only increases with failure and depresses them, consequentially they find a way of life where fear doesn't come face to face with them. They live in their own room of people, don’t come out and remain happy in the life within these borders.
They grow old and the fear of losing money, of succumbing to bad health, of losing their kids, of dying a lonely death take place in their heart. They do everything to avoid this and slowly die and go away with the emotion of fear.
Some people never experience the emotion of freedom.
This is the life of people who fear, and very few are those who know how to fight with fear.
Never have they allowed to let it take place in their thoughts and heart, and have always faced it with open arms. They realize the only way to fight these fears is to face them. They do these things again and again till they get the confidence and self belief to fight it. Once obtained, nothing in the world can stop them. It is only a matter of winning over 3-4 fears in their lives, and after that they do not look to fear as fear but something they need to work on and find answers to resolve it. This thinking and self belief is enough for them to fight fears, sorry challenge because they do not see them as fears.
How can a feared person adopt this way of living? FOLLOW below 3 steps to fight with your fears
1) Face it. If you fear water, then learn swimming, if you fear height, then do parasailing, if you fear public humiliation then let it happen once or twice and it will stop affecting you.
2) Develop self-belief: Trust your actions, and not anoybody else’s. You can only control your actions and thoughts. Leave other people’s thought to them. Do not fuss over your assumptions. Do not underestimate yourself
3) Know your people: ‘Your People’ are those who love you, and want you to be happy. Know them and only talk with them. Share your fear with them. They will make you overcome them. Everyone in their childhood had faced this prank of being pushed in a tank or a swimming pool by their friends. You need this kind of prank to fight with your fears. Be in touch with such friends; for them it may be a prank, but with that you overcome your fear.
4) Read books/ Watch movies: Watch movies and read books that talk about someone’s bravery. It gives motivation, rejuvenation and enthusiasm in your own life. You always feel good after watching or reading such movies and books.
Life gives you an opportunity to live life in your own terms. Don’t let fear take that freedom away from you. Fight with your FEAR.
