What happens when you pour water down a crackedcup? It leaks, doesn't it? Regardless of how continuously you fill it, it willnever hold the water inside, because its rate of leakage is considerably fasterthan your rate of pouring. Typically, this rationale applies to individualswith insecurities. Regardless of how intensely you support them, they will keepyearning for more immediately. Low self-esteems and insecurities turn us intocracked cups; we become in a renewable need for approval and acceptance fromothers as we fail to accept ourselves from an internal perspective. Unfortunately, insecurities become a widespreadcommodity, affecting our understanding of who we are and helping us becomeemotionally dependent on others to irritating extents. Our world todaysucceeded in allowing our emotional brains take over our cognitive thinking,thus making us helpless in the face of the things that we desire the most.Consider your behaviors, how desperate you may be for a Facebook review, atwitter update, an early morning email check, an outing, uploading a YouTubevideo, buying exorbitant outfits, etc. These behaviors reflect being emotionallydependent on sources that are external. And the major drawback of emotionaldependence on external sources of self-reassurance is the fact that they arenot '' always around.'' In a lonely night where silence and squeaking cricketsare the main sponsors, all you really have is an internal understanding of whoyou're. And if that isn't healthy and sufficient, insecurities become the soulforce of pain hurting your self-acceptance.
Our brains consist of 3 layers: the reptilianbrain, the emotional brain, and the primate brain. The first layer, thereptilian brain, is responsible for the pre-programmed responses such ashunger, need for mating, etc. while the emotional brain is responsible forattaching pleasure and pain to our habitual practices. This model was proposedby Dr. Paul MacLean in the 1950s, arguing that our brains consist of 3 layerswith different functions. This model is featured on the following website: www.feedtherightwolf.org. It is a part of a recovery course regardingpornography addiction, because pornography is entirely dependent on our reptilianand emotional brains. I strongly recommend this course even to the ones who arenot addicted to pornography, because it gives the reader a comprehensiveunderstanding of how our brain works, thus providing insights with regard tobeing a more sober, and in-control individual.
Most of our addictive practices that contributeto our insecurities are inspired by how gratifying we perceive certain actionsto be, thus finding great distress in fighting them. In a model featured in therecovery course, called the A-B-C-D-E model: Activating event, belief,consequence, dispute, and exercise, the writer argues that the 1st 3stages are automatic and enjoy a subconscious nature. For instance, you sawsomebody who's laughing while looking at you- an activating event-, so youautomatically presumed that he's laughing at you-belief-, and then you startedto experience feelings of discomfort and frustration-consequence. Our beliefsabout the activating events are affected dearly by an understanding of who weare. These understandings are responsible for forming the perceptions thatdecide how we perceive the world. Simply because we don't see the world as itis. Rather, we see it as it isn't. The world's greatest marketers stated thatmarketing is a battle of perceptions not products, and so is everything else-22 immutable laws of marketing by Jack Trout & Al Ries, 4th law,law of perceptions.
The key to enhancing a healthy self-image isgiving greater space to our cognitive thinking to organize our lives. A simplepractice that I undertake on a daily basis to gain more self-control is termed,'' delaying gratification.'' It is the practice of intently postponing the actsthat are associated with satisfaction and comfort in order to strengthen theauthority of my cognitive thinking over my emotional attachment to certainbehaviors. For instance, I check my Facebook account and email one time a dayfor a duration not longer than 10 minutes, I jog in places that are crowded inorder to diminish the significance of people's views on my actions, and I askmyself one question before stepping into actions that require confidence: isthere's something wrong about what I am aiming to do? If the answer is no, thenI realize that the obstacles are mental and mainly inspired by insecurities ordramatization of people's attention.
In order to fight your fears and insecurities,you have to practice conscious thinking quite extensively. The fourth stage inthe A-B-C-D-E model is termed '' dispute,'' which is the act of evaluating yourreactions and trying to defy them. Practice dispute every time you experienceinsecure reactions. Create a schedule and divide it into 3 columns: problematicaction, warning signs that your conscious thinking is in danger, and rewardsyou get as a result of eliminating the problematic behaviors. This solution wassuggested to pornography addicts to give their primate brains greater authorityover their emotional brains. Yet, it works out just fine with any problem thatis characterized by loss of self-control.
Psychological pains are far more consuming anyother sort of pain. Insecurities are usually inspired by actions that undermineour humanity; sexual intercourses, pornography, shameful secrets, etc. Eventhough the philosophy of overriding self-control is excessively restrictive andtough, it inspires remarkable feeling of self-appreciation and poise. You nolonger feel the urge to repetitively check yourself in the mirror, because theimage residing inside your mind of who you are earns the beauty of the wholeworld.
A guide that can help individuals, specificallymales with retaining the integrity of their sexual urge control systems, thusregaining generic self-control and confidence is a set of videos published by aremarkable person called Zeyad Ramadan on his website: www.purifyyourgaze.com. I highly recommend watching them.They give eye-opening insights that help you understand yourself morehelpfully. They help you attain more
control of your sexual urges, therebylending more space to your conscious thinking to lead your life.
Attaining emotional independence is beyond allthe amazing things this universe can offer. Feeling no crying urge for havingthe world as your sympathetic audience is truly purifying. You get ample timeto reconsider your former actions. You exhale all the bad perceptions andbeliefs. You gain more focus and self-respect. You reallocate your energy anddirect them towards valuable family members and those who truly deserve. Youfeel good and it shows in the calmness of your face. Insecurities are drainingand no action regardless of how pleasing it may seem is worth committing if itbreeds insecurities.
If you pay attention to who you are and feedyour inner image, you help it grow stronger and more assisting. When you feedthe wrong mouths; the mouths of those who you aspire to belong to, you keepyour understanding of who you're starving till the point of severe deformationand limpness. Insecurities are not meant for the dreamers, the passionate, orthe distinct; insecurities were designed to inflect immortal pain upon
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