I've been lied to and recently discovered that the whole relationship was a lie. To which I have downloaded Evernote and am privately writing about it there and he may come up in some future novel as a man who gets caught and perhaps five women he has broken their hearts. Just food for thought that a relative suggested.
And he could possibly come up in Good Girls, Bad Girls as a batterer of some sort.
Anyway, we often get lied to all the time. How can we know we are in one? How can we see the signs when we are first meeting these men that they are going to be honest and truthful and not just be another stereotype male?
Don't get me wrong, there are lots of men out there that are very truthful and are good men, this doesn't speak for all men. And there are women who lie too.
But for many of us honest women just trying to find Mr. Right, it is hard to know if they really are who they say they are.
They all come across in the beginning as this wonderful man, who is charming, knows how to push all the right buttons, and sweet talk us into believing that they are the best one who has come along. Wrong. He only wants one thing, to get us in the sack, get comfortable and then let the true self come out.
They can be coniving, lying, deceitful, lead us on like we are a stupid, gullible, naive puppet on a string that they think they can do with as they damn well please.
Well, this girl and many of you other smart women out there knows when to get out, and I gave him the bug in his ear and I got my wish. As he didn't really care after all.
Like many, many men out there, his true colors came out.
Isn't that the way of it? After a while, they do get quite comfortable, know that they have you wrapped around their finger, and they can sit back and watch the sports, not listen to you, not decide to give you the simple things that you want and basically show you know respect and treat you like crap.
Be smart, be wise and get out before they can hurt you more than they already have. They aren't worth it and we need to find someone more suitable to our needs as there are some good men out there.
Jennifer Jo Fay
Copyrighted October 8, 2012
