"Why must you always have this compulsive need to cling onto other people?
Why do you have this need to constantly drag people into Your world?
One that they have no intention to follow?
Why can't you be happy with your way and let others be happy with theirs?"
Yesterday night, I woke up to somebody saying this ^^ to me. I searched to who that person was but I was surprised to see the room empty. It was just me. Me talking to me.
I have been practicing this exercise for a while. Because it is helping, I would like to share with you all.
I have stopped CREATING dreams for a few days now and instead I talk to Myself, telling My problems and confusions and conflicts to Myself and sleep.
And then, the next morning, I record all that I could remember of my dreams that night in a diary, and trust me; THE SOLUTION IS ALWAYS THERE. Somewhere hidden between the lines.
What I told Me that morning kept reeling in my head. I was right.
I not only wanted my way, I wanted others to live my way too.
That was the how I had ruined a few of my relationships with friends, family and co-workers.
To explain in simpler terms, some relationships begin to end with this. Say for example, with your partner.
You want him to live your way and he wants you to live his. When you want to stay home over the weekend, he wants you to accompany him to go drinking and partying with his friends.
And you end up with an argument. So you would stay home and sulk and he would go out and sulk and get drunk. And he returns home, the fight resumes.
If you win the game, you drag him into your world and he would stay home and sulk. And you would fight again!
Now, how about this? He would have let you be home and you would have let him go out with his friends, then he would come back home with latest about his world and you could share yours!
This habit to force others live a life you want them to live and to perceive things as you perceive, can also be one of the factors you could blame for your sour relationship with your children, parents, friends or colleagues. Even if that is your way of showing care and love!
Sometimes, we don't take people for granted, but their freedom. If we grant the other person the freedom to be themselves, the other person is always growing and renewing.
For every person to grow and explore their greatness, they have to follow their path and purpose.
Most people fail because they try copying others and leaving their path not realizing that each of us here has a different question paper.
If you sow a seed and dig the soil every other day to see how much has the sapling grown, the tree wouldn't ever happen!
