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“If I like a guy, is it okay for me to pursue him first before he pursues me?”
Oh, that pesky question. I think all young women have asked themselves that very thing at least once during their single years.
I remember those days. Liking a guy so much it almost makes you sick to think about. Oh, yes – that season wasn’t exactly an easy one.
He’s godly, loves the Lord, and not to mention that he’s super cute.
“But does he even notice that I exist?”
When Craig and I first met, I was confused, to say the least. How many times did I find myself questioning whether he thought I was outgoing enough, pretty enough, godly enough? Wondering what would happen if I texted him first? Or if I just asked him to “hang out” and grab coffee? Would he know that I liked him? That I couldn’t stop thinking about him?
I wanted him to notice me, to want me, to like me.
I remember days when it was so tempting to just flat out confess my feelings, to get them out in the open, even if it meant getting hurt.
But as I prayed through our friendship, God made one thing extremely clear.
It wasn’t about me.
Because it was all about Him.
And by Him, I don’t mean Craig - it’s all about Jesus. Always. Even in the most vulnerable situations.
As I prayed through where our friendship was heading, I was reminded time and time again that I needed to die to self.
I think we can all agree that one of the most difficult parts of having a relationship with God is learning to trust.
Oh, man – is it hard!
If I stepped out in front of God and His timing, I wouldn’t have been trusting that God had a better plan than anything I could ever imagine.
And indeed, He did!
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. // Romans 8:28
So what do you do when you find yourself having feelings for someone?
Give it to the Lord!
The best thing you can do when you have feelings for someone is to just give it over to God! He knows what He’s doing – trust me! Pray about it, journal about it, and give over completely to him. Even if this guy isn’t the “one”, you’ll still be confident that God has incredible things (and an incredible someone) in store for you!
Focus on Becoming a Godly Woman
Rather than obsessing over this guy, work on becoming the kind of woman that would be attractive to a godly man! I immediately think of the Proverbs 31 woman. Focus on growing in your own walk with the Lord. Focus on being the kind of woman both God and your future husband would desire you to be.
Seek Guidance & Advice
Talk with the women in your life that have been there and struggled with what you’re going through. Ask questions, take advantage of their wisdom. They’ll also help you to gain insight into whether the person you have feelings for is a genuine man after God’s own heart, or just another “Christian” boy who isn’t sold out for Christ.
Love Your Future Husband Now
Though I know you’re probably head over heels for this guy and already imagining what your kids will look like, keep in mind that you’re still single. Remember your future husband, and pursue purity. And I’m not just talking about physical purity. I’m talking about both emotional and spiritual purity, as well.
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If you want to learn more on how to love your husband, even while you’re still single, check out this other article, too!
So, the question that it all boils down to is this…
Do you really trust that God is in control? Enough to walk away from what you want for what God has for you?
If God really is faithful and working all things out for our good, He can and will move in the heart of this man if it’s the best that He has for you.
Patience, trust, and faith are invaluable.
As difficult as it is to sometimes believe, know that what God has for you is beyond anything that you could ever ask or imagine.
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. // Ephesians 3:20
