If you are like me, you have a thousand thoughts going through your brain at once. As a mom, those thoughts are often of my daughter and possibly my other children as well. What kind of person will they be? Am I doing the right thing? What should I give them for dinner? And so on.
Today’s post will be some sort of an interesting one. Most may not like what I am about to say but please keep in mind that this is my blog and it is my safe place, nasty comments (i.e comments personally attacking me and my family, if there is any) will be deleted. I always believe that if you have nothing nice to say, then keep it to yourself. If it is constructive criticism then I will allow that after all it is your opinion.
When I heard this song by Macklemore “Same Love” for the first time, I cried. I cried for the child that he was talking about. That child that was so scared that he was Gay. All my thoughts were also with the mother of that child. How would she react to something like that? How would I react to something like that? Then my thoughts went on further to thinking, what if one day, the Lil’ Tiger or any of my other children came up to me and tell me that they are gay? What would my reaction be? Would I be sad? Would I feel happy? Would I start to worry? What? This thought went on and on again and again in my head.
To be honest, I wouldn’t know how I would react, but here is what I want my children to know. I will accept them for who they are. I will hold their hands as they go through probably one of their hardest part of their life. I will fight for who they are and their rights and most important of all I will still love them no matter who they are.
Of course I will be scared for them. Of course I will worry for them. After all, being Gay is not widely accepted by everyone in this world, although, I think most of you know someone who is Gay whether they are still in the closet or not and we just choose to close one eye and not accept it. I know a few within close family and friends.
Being Gay often leads to family falling out or the person being Gay is outcast by their very own family and although I personally do not have any experience in this, I still do not want that for my child. I know how lonely a person can get without support and compassion from their family. Being Gay, often comes with a stigma that it is against nature to be one. To be honest, most of the time, maybe 99% of the time, you are born Gay and not made. So does that mean that what you have created and carried for 9 months is not natural? How can you love someone for that long and then turn around and not love that person anymore just because they are being who they truly are? Are we that cruel?
Some people argue that it is against religion to be Gay but killing someone in the name of God is ok? (I am not only talking about extremist Muslims here, if you look back in history, the extremist Christians kill in the name of God as well) To be honest, that is between them and the God that they believe in. We have no right to judge one’s sexuality in the name of God just like how killing someone in the name of God is not our right either.
Coming from an Asian family, being Gay is not an option. Period. It’s often pushed aside and maybe swept under the carpet. Better not to address it and make it real. That is often the mantra. What is not there is not real. If a family accepts that their child or someone in their family is openly Gay, then their community in which they live in may not accept it and the whole family may be outcast. Which is kind of sad.
So what is the whole point of this post you might ask? I write this for my children, for my family, for my friends, for people I know. I write this because I want them to know that my love and my feelings for them will not change no matter what. I want them to know that they will have my love and support no matter what path they choose.
To my beautiful children, if you are reading this, know that mommy loves you so much.
