The weekends have been absolutely amazing since I put my foot down on a few things: avoiding constant phone calls that interrupted our time and spending less time with people that didn't add anything to our life.Putting it in the simplest of fashions: I love my hubby and my marriage 95% of the time; because the other 5% is spent on household stuff and bills. AND, who likes household stuff and bills?!
How did it happen? We talked. A lot. And...collectively made a decision that was the best for US.
It was a conversation to be had, and something that I battled for some time with my hubby: "If we're arguing on the way back home after spending time with certain people, we just can't be spending that much time with them."
Period and end of story.
I wish we could say that we're going to avoid all the negative nelly's around us, but we can't avoid family and, honestly, life happens - we simply have to manage how we interact with people.
Management=Making US a priority.
As for friends, hubby and I have made changes around us. People that aren't a fan of me, he can spend time with on his own. Likewise with my friends.
Hubby has also gotten involved with a few blogging things and has enjoyed the company of a few bloggers. Since blogging has become a bigger part of my life as I refocus my career and my return back to school, I couldn't be happier with my hubby's support.
I can't say we've gotten into a routine, but we definitely ironed out the tiny kinks that slowed down our stride. So much so, that sometimes I've forgotten that there's life outside of our life.
Just this week I RSVP'd for an event, plus one, of course. No issues there. But then work got in the way.
"I have to work late a couple of nights this week," my hubby told me.
"But we have such-and-such that we already RSVP'd to," I pouted.
No-go folks. Work takes priority and this gentle flower was left with a couple of great invites and no date.
I panicked.
"Should I invite so-and-so?" I asked myself...then quickly nixed a couple of people from my list of potential blogger dates:
Bad conversationalist.
Not always professional.
Not a foodie.
Won't appreciate it.
And on, and on, and on.
I posted an invite to one of the events in a couple of blogger groups. No bites.
I panicked some more.
Then I received a text, from a friend that is not connected to social media in any way shape or form.
"I keep smiling as I think about you. You are very special to me. Thank you for being you."This message was the universe's way of telling me that I have a life outside of social media and blogging. That as much as I love my social media friends I have come to realize that they're not the only part of my life.
I then sent the invite to five people via text. Three said yes, two were not available. Response time? Less than a minute.
I suddenly didn't feel the loneliness I felt before.
I actually feel very lucky and oh so blessed.
